I Love My Kids...
But This Is So Freaking Hard!
A Free Recording For Mothers
You love your kids. Adore them. You're a great mom. Anyone would say so! Even you! Really! You have no doubts! And motherhood is rewarding and rich and the best thing that you've ever done!
But. There are days when you think there just MUST be something wrong with you. There's no WAY it's supposed to be this hard.
Join Martha Beck Certified Life Coach Anna Kunnecke for this free conversation on motherhood. The only requirement is that you come to the call as your most raw, authentic self...and use a pseudonym. One of the most difficult parts of motherhood is the JUDGMENT. On this phone call, we're just going to bypass that completely-- no one will know who you are!
This call is open to all mothers, but it's especially for those who have young children AND are trying to pursue a business or creative endeavor. This juggling act can be the best of both worlds...except when it's the absolute worst.
This call was recorded live on August 11, 2011. We got down and dirty about motherhood- and you can listen in! Simply sign up below and I'll send you a free mp3 recording of our conversation. (I promise, it's juicy.) You'll also receive a copy of a poem I wrote, my love letter to mothers.
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We'll Talk About...
- How precarious it can all feel- one fever, one late babysitter, and the whole thing can come crashing down
- Why we get SO ANGRY- even though we are loving, lovely people
- How other moms sometimes makes you feel worse, not better...and which 'friends' to fire immediately
- Strategies for carving out time for your own creative and business pursuits
- Dealing with the guilt when you carve out time for your own creative and business pursuits
- Why you should do it anyway
- How to actually make that happen: nuts and bolts and secret tips
- The keys to the kingdom: a few tips I wish older women had told me three years ago
Yes, it's hard. But OH BOY is it juicy.
Let's talk about it.
Why I'm Doing This
Telecourses like this one with me usually sell for $49. This call is completely free.
I've been hearing an undercurrent of such exhaustion, shame, and despair from some of the amazing mothers I know. It breaks my heart. I remember how awful I felt a few years ago, when I loved my daughter beyond words but was struggling so hard and couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. So I want to put this out in the world for anyone who is feeling alone.
I certainly don't have motherhood figured out. Ha!! Far from it. I screw up, lose it, say stupid things, and mess up with my five-year-old daughter ALL THE TIME. But I am now 'militantly on my own side,' as Anne Lamott says, and that has changed everything. I'm not worried about my mistakes. I KNOW I'm a good mom. (A great one, in fact.) And I also love my work in the world passionately.
Some people will say, "You can't have it all." Or maybe they'll say, "You can have it all, but not at the same time." They'll tell you to put aside your dreams while your children are young. That sentiment rang an old bell of shame in me. Why couldn't I just be happy sitting out ten years of my life? Why didn't I love playing blocks with my toddler...for six hours at a time? Other mothers did, right? In between the flash cards and the music classes and the organic homemade baby food and OH GOD JUST SHOOT ME NOW.
Compare and despair, my friends. That wasn't the kind of mommy I was. Nope. Me, I wanted to read intellectual books and have deep, engaging conversations with smart soulful women. I hate board games, ring-around-the-rosy, and playing hide-and-seek. And the competitive banter between women at the park sometimes makes me want to cry. On the other hand, I'll read stories until the cows come home and my daughter and I talk about everything. So after a while, I learned to let some things go. I let go of some of my notions of what I had to do, be, and look like in order to be 'a good mother.'
I have discovered that when I embrace this part of me who loves her work and is unashamed about making it a big part of my life, I'm an even BETTER mother. This is not about how much child care you have or don't have, or about how much money you do or don't earn. I don't care if you work 50 hours a week or 5 on your own projects. It's about honoring who you are and your unique style of mothering. I've learned some tips and strategies along the way, and I want to share them with you. But mostly, I want to create a safe space for women to talk about this without an ounce of judgment.
It's not about 'having it all.' But I'm convinced that you can be a wonderful mother AND feed your soul.
If that sounds good to you, join me for this call.
About me
I'm a heathen mystic, writer, and certified Martha Beck Life Coach. I lived in Tokyo until March this year, and just relocated to Portland, Oregon with my five-year-old daughter. I write a daily blog, Sit At My Table. I created The Queen Sweep, a kick-ass group coaching program where smart soulful women shift their internal landscape by cleaning up their physical one. And I'm the founder of The Birth Story Project. I call my coaching Personal Alchemy because we have the power to turn our most painful experiences into pure gold. Early motherhood was brutally difficult for me, even though I loved my daughter beyond anything I'd believed possible, and I'm committed to helping other mothers find joy, relief, and nurture. Being a mother is the most delicious, juicy, demanding, heartbreaking, hilarious thing I've ever done. Being a coach is a close second.
